I would always here the phrase and think it was the stupidest thing that I ever heard. How do people grow apart?
I think it is quite easy in fact. Although many times it is hard to see, we are constantly changing. You look at a photograph from one year to the next and you many times can see huge changes that little by little day by day you never saw.
Changing, changing, changing. Our ages, our hair, our weight (mostly the wrong direction), our occupation, our interests, our personality even. When I think about the person I was 15 years ago, it is unrecognizable to the person I am today. I am still at my core that girl, but stronger. I have to be, there isn't just me but little babies that need to be taken care of.
Funny, when you hit a wall emotionally speaking. You get up, you shake yourself of, and all of a sudden you think to yourself how did I get here? Do I want to be here? Do I want to be somewhere else?
Deep down, I know that I want to be here and I am hopeful that my husband wants to be here with me too. We have definitely hit a rough patch as of late and writing has always been where I go to put it all together.
I am just going to keep praying that somehow, someway it works out and we find our way back to even ground where we can start fresh. Maybe, if you wouldn't mind you could say a prayer or two as well?
You are not alone. Reach out to other twin mommies. I hear that relationships are troubled the first year of life. Hang in there. Praying...
ReplyDeletePraying things even out and you can find that connection again. Stronger than before.
ReplyDeleteI am a fellow twin mommy. The first year is so brutal, I thought for sure our marriage was over. After the first year it got better and more manageable and now that they are almost two we are back on track and more in love than we ever have been. Hang in there! Bringing one child in the world is a shock, especially to the dad who hasn't been feeling the pregnancy for the time you have, so two is really hard on both people. Hang in there, I swear it gets so much better,
ReplyDeleteThank you everyone for the kind words. I definitely feel like we are swaying back and forth at warp speed. I know we will make it through though...
ReplyDeleteMy twins are 7 mths old and the most shocking part of the whole adventure has been the unexpected strain on our relationship. I have heard that we are totally normal in this but it has been scary and unsettling for sure. I have no words of wisdom, just a "me too!" and any comfort that knowing you're not alone can offer.
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